Frequently Asked Questions
Q. What type of guys should I be expecting to meet and play with at in-person events?
A. TCJ is an open and affirming organization that welcomes all self-identifying cis-gender and trans-masculine individuals to join TCJ and participate at TCJ events. What brings us together is our common love for masturbation and the desire to share that love with other like-minded masculine-identifying individuals.
Q. What is the age range of members?
A. Members' ages range from 18 to 65+ with 24% between 26 and 35, 33% between the ages of 36 and 48, and 30% greater than 48 years of age.
Q. How many guys attend in-person events?
A. Attendance varies, and not every member attends every event. Generally our events draw 12 to 15 guys; however it's worth mentioning that even if attendance is lower than your expectation; we find that the quality of the guys in attendance is more important than the quantity.
Q. How do the in-person events go down? What should I expect?
A. You will naturally be a little anxious and nervous at first, but you will quickly become accustomed to the group and the action. The format of an event can vary slightly depending upon the venue. Generally speaking there will be a 30 minute entrance window to allow members to gather gradually so as not to draw any unwanted attention. There will usually be two areas: one for socializing before the doors lock and a play area open until the close of the event. Both spaces become full on play areas once the doors are locked for the evening.
Q. Am I expected to get fully naked at an in-person event?
A. That's up to you. Some guys enjoy the feeling of being completely nude while masturbating while others like being in their underwear or underwear and t-shirt, etc.
Q. Why is there no oral or anal sex allowed?
A. This club was designed for a specific reason: To jack off with other men, PERIOD. We understand that guys have interest other than jacking off; but this is not the place for these activities.
Q. What if I just want to watch and JO and not play with other guys or only want to play with certain guys?
A. You are in charge of your own body. If you do not want to be touched by the other guys or only want to play with certain guys be courteous and respectful when declining another member's offer to play. Remember: "no means no" not "try again in 15 minutes". Also, there is a subtle art of knowing when someone is interested in playing with you. Eye contact and body language and very important. Start by walking up to a guy and making eye contact or standing next to them. You’ll know if they want to plan. Tweaking a nipple is a nice way to start. Some guys get turned off if you grab the goodies without knowing if they want to play. If you don’t want to play with someone who has approached you, just say a polite, “No thanks.” and walk away. If they persist, move their hand away gently but firmly and walk away. Most guys are very polite and will know when to leave you alone. No one will make you do anything you don’t want to do.
Q. What if I want to hook-up with another member or members outside of an event?
While we cannot control who you communicate or play with outside of events we strongly discourage fraternization outside of the group to help maintain group members' anonymity.
Q. I understand drugs and/or alcohol is prohibited at events, but does this include poppers?
A. Most of our members do not use or care for poppers, so no, poppers are not permitted.